I have noticed this mentality permeates the Church: "The poor will be happy with our leftovers. They don’t know any better."
If we reflect on how Jesus shared the gospel and how he led the church, that is the quintessential picture of how a husband should lead his wife. So how do we apply the teaching of Jesus with leadership in marriage?
Go back and read the calling of Abraham and Noah, Moses, and David. Read them and see what God teaches you.